[ It's not only because he wants to plan out their second wedding. It isn't even only because he wants to take back the duties that had temporarily been placed on Wangji's shoulders, with him sequestered away in seclusion, to ensure that he has the time with his husband that he missed, all those years. Or because he is aware that there are things that will need smoothing over, when the Lan sect officially takes such a stand behind Wei Wuxian. As much as he loves his brother and his uncle, Wei Wuxian is a contentious subject for both of them, in different ways.

It's a combination of all of the above and the fact that while he is not ready to progress to talking to people or making decisions, he is already doing it. He is already having to learn how to move forward, to live with the choices he made and rebuild himself in the ones he makes now. ]

I have been out of seclusion for too long, now. If I were to return when we finally find our way back home, it would no longer be about self-reflection. It would become avoidance.

[ And he does not ever want to be their father, cutting himself off from the world and letting the responsibility of sect leadership fall to his younger brother, taking little interest even in preparing the sect heir to take over. ]

I do not ever want you and your family to wonder if you are loved, or to think that you are not enough to keep me grounded in our world.